I’m sure we’ve all heard the saying – “change is the only constant.” While the phrase is a cliché, its truth echoes through most aspects of life, both personal and professional. Whether it’s a major career shift, a move, a new bit of technology that needs to be learned, or an unexpected life event, our ability to adapt—to weather the change—is a defining trait of resilience.
The first step in weathering any storm is recognizing that it’s coming, or that you’re already in it. Change often follows a predictable emotional arc, known as the Change Curve (adapted from the Kübler-Ross model of grief from the Elizabeth Kübler-Ross Foundation):
Shock/Denial – this represents our initial reaction to the change; sometimes refusing to believe the change is real or even necessary; “this can’t be happening,” or “this will all blow over.” The best thing we can do is affirm our feelings (and choose our behavior); gather as much objective information about the change that we can. Knowledge is power!
Fear/Resistance – as the reality of the inevitable change settles in, we may experience anxiety, anger, and frustration. Sometimes there is even active pushback against the new reality; “this is going to ruin everything.” To navigate our emotions, it is best to communicate concerns constructively and focus on what you can control.
Exploration/Acceptance – this is when we start to let go of the past and experiment with the new situation; “okay, let’s figure out how to make this work.” Seek out training or resources; look for small wins and opportunities. We see this with the transition to Mandt 3.0 as instructors are attending their recertification classes.
Commitment/Integration – this happens when we fully embrace the change; “this is our new normal, and it’s actually better.” Once instructors have had an opportunity to ask all of their questions regarding the changes brought forth with Mandt 3.0 and are beginning to implement the new curriculum.
Recognizing where you are on this curve can normalize your feelings and provide a roadmap for moving forward. Other ways to adapt to change include:
Anchor yourself in routine. While the curriculum for Mandt 3.0 has many changes, there is still consistency within the program. Treating people with dignity and respect is still paramount; affirming your feelings and choosing your behavior continues to be a key element of working with other people.
Prioritize communication and especially listening. When we stop asking questions so that we can clarify our perceptions we often err on the side of speculation and fear. Please reach out to us at The Mandt System with any and all questions so that we can have the opportunity to dispel your concerns.
Embrace and practice mindful discomfort. Change is inherently uncomfortable. We are wading into a pool of the unknown, but with that change also comes new skills and perspectives. It is an opportunity for us to continue to grow. Instead of fighting that feeling of discomfort, try acknowledging it without judgment. Take some deep breaths. Try to label your emotion (“I feel anxious about 3.0 because I had just gotten used to the 2.0 material”) and then choose your behavior (“and I’m going to stay open minded to these changes just like I have with other updates to the curriculum.”).
Change is inevitable, but misery is optional. By understanding the emotional process, establishing small anchors of stability, and proactively choosing a mindset of growth and acceptance, we don’t just survive the changes in our lives – we harness them to build a stronger, more resilient self.
Let us know how the transition to the 3.0 curriculum has been going for you. We are always here to support you!
Nikki Wince, Director of Faculty Development
